A general question. Cheryl Lynn started it, but others continued it, so this is not aimed at her (only), but at all:
If you don't want "to take away the sexy", whose sexy are you referring to?
Let's take Dead Stephanie Robin, for example. One of the critiques of that incident was that she was drawn in an erotic manner, in a situation where she was tortured to death. That her death was eroticised.
So maybe it was. So maybe somebody could look at that part of the comic and "get off" on a girl being tortured and killed.
Which means, maybe you don't find it sexy, but someone else might.
And maybe you think that's sick.
So then what? Take that kinda thing out of mainstream superhero comics? Okay. But then, you're taking the sexy away. Maybe not YOUR sexy, but could be SOMEONE'S sexy. Even if it's a sick sexy.
Is it okay to take away the sexy if it's sick? If so, isn't that kind of contradicting the whole "not taking the sexy away" thing?
Or is it only sexy if you say it's sexy? (Answer: of course not)
Is it that you don't want to see what you think is sick?
Is it that you think kids might see what you think is sick?
Is it just that it really creeps you out that someone might find that sort of thing arousing, and you just don't like at all the idea that someone might be getting his/her jollies off on what you find disgusting?
Or some combo of the three?
But really: is it playing fair to say "I won't take the sexy away", but define "the sexy" only by your terms, not those of the one whose "sexy" you're promising not to take?